Memorial to a Man, Paul Beyer

I didn’t know Paul Beyer, really. We lived in the same community, our kids ran into each other often, never met his wife, yet Paul Beyer is all I have been thinking about this week. From the limited knowledge I have, Paul Beyer worked in the software industry in CA. and then moved to CT. where he worked for a company in the NY metro area (I only know this because of Linkedin) Not sure why he made the move…could have been his wife’s family was here….it’s a nice place to live…a new job brought him. Whatever the reasons were, they all ended abruptly last week when Paul Beyer died suddenly leaving his son, his step daughter, his wife and extended family and his job behind him.

Oh yes, his job. He worked for Comosoft who I have never heard of but seem to be a solid company who’s technology aids and supports the catalog and fashion industries. I noticed that at one point this company had Paul mentioned in their management team page on their website but as abruptly as Paul died, they stripped all of his information away. No mention of him, no memorial of any kind. While Paul did not die from natural causes and some would say with a little controversy, Comosoft could have handled the passing of a good man with much more grace and empathy!

Whenever a company is faced with any kind of crisis whether it be large or small, the best way always to move forward is with complete honesty and openess. Did Comosoft need to go into detail about their relationship with Paul and how he died? Absolutely not (we could leave that to the Fairfield Minuteman who used no discretion or empathy for a grieving family!). A simple statement from Comosoft’s CEO would have worked…words that revealed that Paul worked for Comosoft…thoughts that showed they were sorry for the loss.

A human voice behind a company that shows compassion for another human being should be simple and should be necessary for any business to succeed!

3 thoughts on “Memorial to a Man, Paul Beyer

  1. Hi,

    Did you read the entire article? In his brief case was a letter of termination. The company had probably already taken all mention of him off their web site by the time he got to the train station. And, since in the minds of those who run the company, he no longer worked for them, there was no need to say anything or have any condolences on their web site.

    The whole thing is sad. I hope his wife did not put expectations on him that he felt he had not lived up to, but it sounds like he did not feel he could go home without a job.

    This reflects on our society in lots of ways. Mostly it says that the job and money are more important than the relationships of marriage and family. And it says that big business in America is anti-personal and does not realize that people are the reason for business. How do we stop this merry-go-round?

  2. Its really unfortunate how Comosoft chose to handle, or rather, dismiss the situation. Corporate America is quickly becoming a miasma of strangers. Too often, people walk in and out of their office (where they spend just as much, if not more time, than they do in their own homes or beds) without knowing anything about “John from accounting” or “Mike from IT” beyond what their phone extension is. When I had my office job, I made it a point to know everyone that I worked closely and not-so-closely with. When people were gone for surgery or extended sick leave we would volunteer to fix meals for them and their families, it was a close-knit bunch. Unfortunately, I’m quickly realizing that we were the exception and a rarity in the very impersonal world that is the corporate office.

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